Dreams

Every one has a dream. Every game show which perceptually tests ones personality has these questions put forward, “if you were not what you are, then what would you like to be?” or “given an option where would you like to be?” I have some answers of my own.

Last day, I was watching a children’s movie (oh yes! I am child at heart). The parting dialogue in the movie is, “Well, just because we cannot see something, it does not mean that it is not there.” Although the reason I watched the movie was because I was tired of my finance lessons, this sentence made me contemplate over the relevance of it in our day to day life. There is a wonderful wall paper that Hallmark brought out which says, “Seeing is Believing”. The poster had a beautiful lady and a kid; of course my memories revolved around the lady! Now, the reason I brought up the story of the poster is because what it said contradicted what I just heard from a kid. I thought it would be appropriate to decide which would be the most relevant or the most followed in my life.

As a kid, I had some of the beautiful moments when my granny sat down with me narrating glorious episodes of the princess and the prince who came to save her; the fairy who comes secretly at night to hear my wishes and take them to God who grants them; the other fairy who fought off all the treacherous monsters off my room and many more. She was so articulate and expressive that every time she starts telling me the stories, I could see her transform to the princess and the fairy. I still know how much I wished to see the fairy and give her my detailed list so that she could bring me exactly what I wanted. Though I never saw her, I always knew she was there and I believed when my granny said, “You be a good boy and drink your milk and fairy would soon come to see you!”

I moved to upper grades and I was introduced into a much modern world. The world of machos; the one in which I could not see my fairy and I was to believe that she was never there, because if I did not, I could never be part of the big league. I of course cherished my dreams and I am pretty sure that almost all my friends did, but were too proud to say it out loud.

I was filled with law of Gravitation and Relativity and all I know is that if I follow a discrete set of procedures, I would get a result which is suppose to denote the ultimate truth which is worth believing. I was being crafted into a man. The people who crafted me were pretty dexterous, I should say; now that I can sit down and put my thoughts down!

The actual point is that after all those years of rigorous training and brain wash; I still believe that I am the disciple of the kid’s philosophy. Well, I believe that we all are. I have no idea of the percentage of atheist within our population. The amoung rest, who I believe still forms the majority, the number of people who actually saw God would be negligible (I am assuming this because the priest of my church had once said that the Holy Pope usually speaks with God personally). I do not wish to go into the theological altercation. The point I wanted to make is that we still believe in God, though I have never seen him personally! Again I believe that Jimi Hendrix was just human, where as is his music is so out of this world! And oh yes, every night as I go to sleep, I make a list of things to do tomorrow.

It has not caused any damage to me being imaginative and by believing what I could not see. It just provided me a wonderful way to lead my life. When I see my granny, I am as excited to see her as she is, to lie in her lap and sail in the world of stories. It brings to life the special bond I have with her. It rejuvenates my mind which could other wise be filled with thought of my finances, my machine designs or the new job I am due to take. I realize that it was far better then when I was five and I long to be there. And when it is time to move back into the city after my vacations, I long for my next vacations.

I once read, “Child is the father of man!” I believe it. The one thing I could trade for my entire assets would my childhood. Though I cannot see it coming towards me, I still believe that it is some where there and I just need to search for it. It may be with the love of my life or with the kids we would have or may be even when I turn sixty or seventy. But the most significant thing is to preserve our childhood within ourselves. It keeps us young at heart.

As I walk back into my real world I hum….

“Some day I’ll be, Young at five;
With ones I love and who loves me most…”

Friendship

We have been taught “Knowledge is Wealth”. The past few days of my life have gone by with incidents which made me juggle around with on this saying. ‘What is wealth?’ I would not swing the focus on to Adam Smith’s definition of wealth, but I tried to answer the question in my own perspective.

To me friendship is the greatest wealth an individual can have. I may not be the most elegant or successful person on the earth, but if I have a few good friends, then I would not be lonely in this wide world! Being lonely could be one of most awful dream I could ever have! It may not be the same for all, but I am positive that every one of us would need a company or rather would long for a companion at some point of time. What I feel is that a person who has at least one dependable friend is a blessed guy.

Many people count me as sentimental or an expressionist when I emphasize the need of having good friendship and keeping it. I admit that I tend to become a little emotional with relationships as well. That is who I am and I do not look down on me for it. I am quite happy that I have friends whom I am sure would be there for me….or at least for whom I am sure that I would be there for. I like the feelings to be expressed; I respect my friends’ feelings and would definitely take the first step to resolve an issue. I felt that this always helped me to keep my friends.

Last day a friend of mine made remarks on avoiding teasing comments between friends, when we share a good moment. To this, I had commented that a limit has to be maintained and that I believe that a friendship should stay afloat in any circumstance. I had to give it a little thought and I realized that some times between friends, we take things for granted. The friendship would have lasted for a prolonged period that one tends to believe that he/she knows every thing about other person. This might turn fatal owing to the fact that human nature is unfathomable. I could state something from my own life for this:
I used to be a very hot tempered guy when I was in my teens. I had friends, and I believed that our relationship was simply great. It was accidental that one day I said a joke to which every one stood surprised… it was for the first time that I made a joke on myself. I found that it appealed a lot to my friends and I could use it to make the relationship livelier. Now, that did not mean that I lost my tempered character. But being with my friends I realized that being hot tempered would not do any good to my life… it could as well bring misery! I tried to adapt and I believed that all my friends were to adapt too. I took them for granted. And then was a day when I found out that I was not correct when an offhand comment took one of my friends away from the group. It was just a mistake or rather something that I forgot. But it cost me a friend!

It was a grave feeling to lose a friend. It was painful realizing that I had been instrumental for this agony. To be honest I do not know till now, why I felt so. Was it because I knew he is never going to come back or was it because I knew it was tedious to find another friend like him? I could really live with out him! Every thing remains the same! But one thing I know is that even after so many years, I still miss him and I really wish could change that one moment.

I think that any friendship should be of a standard as to forgive and forget. As I mentioned earlier, it would be ideal if friendship could stay afloat in all circumstances. But it is being reveled to me that it is not an easy thing after all. A certain amount of commitment is required to keep such a blessed relationship, which I feel is the underlying wave of all other relationship or rather friendship is the essence that ads a special touch to any other relationship, be it be between a couple, kids and parents or any other relationship we could visualize. My experience tells me that it is easy to find a friend, it is difficult to find a true friend and it is tedious to be a true friend. When you long for a true friend; try to be one… and you could see everything you longed for would just follow you!

Belief: The Miracle Worker

The study of human behavior is perhaps one of the most significant and extensive area of investigation amoung the sciences. This owes to the fact that the human nature has extravagant and assorted faces! Many believe that it would be impossible to find two people from a sample lot who share all the attributes. To be more judgmental, it has already been proved that no two atoms are same. So, a person should be flawlessly reasonable when he emphasizes that, “I am different!”

Since the emphasis is on human nature, to move away from being diverse, a thought occurred to me on what could possibly be squared on as the single common attribute of all people? What is that every person likes to uphold? What is that guides him? What could possibly be the cause for his strength, confidence and pride? Some of these are the commonly heard dialogues in our day to day life:

“I think that should be due to ……”

“I knew it would ……”

“I believe ……”

That should be it! Belief. Belief is what guides a person. It is what gives him the urge to live. I believe that my destination is near and my belief shows me the way. I know that I am going to get there; sooner or later. It is the same belief that gives a mother the strength to carry her baby through the ten months and then go through the incredible labor pain; the conviction that she is a part of the true miracle of life. I go to sleep every night peacefully as I believe that I am going to wake up the next day at dawn and I would have a whole new and vivid day ahead of me. I leave home saying, “Honey, I’ll see you at eight for dinner” because I believe that I would be there by my beloved, which I so much long for.

Now, it could be universal to have some beliefs, but it requires substantial courage to stand up for what one believes in. This owes to the principles of life, which I am sure every one would cherish. I could believe in something and every day that pass would undoubtedly bring forth challenges to my beliefs. I say, “I believe in father the God almighty and his only Son…………” every day in front of the alter and may not even bother to abide it by being a good son! One could say I believe that the politics is fraudulent and has to be cleansed off and would not even bother to vote!

‘No wonder, the world is full of Hypocrites!’

But there are people who stood up to their beliefs and believed they can! Had it not for them, man would have never conquered the Everest and the Moon. We could have had no airplanes, leave airplanes… not even cars!

Every thing that we see in this world is a testimonial of someone’s belief. It is an ovation to the fact that some one stood up to the challenges, the test of time and society because he trusted in his belief; in himself. This is what every one should do. Say this to yourselves,

“My life may not be the way I wanted it to be, I am may not be seen as a person I want to be, something might not be going the way it should be; but sooner or later I am going to be the person I believe I am, because I trust and believe that I can.”

This belief could be your 'Miracle Worker'!